“We need, in love, to practice only this: letting each other go.
For holding on comes easily; we do not need to learn it.”
~ Rainer Maria Rilke
Rilke is spot on! It is much easier to hang on to something we love than it is to let it go.
I can see the frustration on some faces when I say, “Just let go.” You’ve seen an injustice. You’ve experienced an insult. Someone in our church was slighted by someone you know. You want to “make it right.” But I counsel you to, “let it go” by asking you to ask God, “How are you coming to me in this?”
More often than not, the best outcome is achieved by letting it go, seeking God in that offense, praying for God to work through it, and being ready to engage “for” the one who is hurt in the midst of their hurt and without becoming hateful toward the offender.
We need to pose that question to God much more frequently than we need to try to fix everything for everybody. Some things can’t be fixed by us, and we need to live with the tension that creates within us.
Letting go is a life-giving characteristic of the true-self within each of us. It’s about giving up control, something the false-self hates. It’s about acknowledging God’s control over situations that seem utterly out of control.
The Scripture speaks directly to this “letting go” with these words. Let’s let these words control our response to people and events that frustrate us!
“Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all transgressions.”
Proverbs 10:12 NASB
“Above all, keep fervent in your love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins.”
1 Peter 4:8 NASB
More often than not, letting love “cover” something is a much better choice than we can imagine!