“When you become a mother,
you are no longer the center of your own universe.
You relinquish that position to your children.”
Attributed to Jessica Lang
Who’s at the center of your universe? Should she or he be in that place of high importance?
From my experience, Lang’s statement is true. When my wife and I had our first child, everything changed.
No longer did everything revolved around us as a couple and what we wanted. Suddenly everything became about our new little baby girl.
Lang is right. Mothers do relinquish that central position to their children — at least good mothers do.
So do good fathers!
With Mother’s Day only a few days behind us, I’ve been considering this quote. I mentioned in my morning message this past Sunday, Mother’s Day.
Could not the very same thing be said of God in Christ? When the Trinity began the work of creation, everything was made for one man and one woman, and their offspring (all of us). They would be the center of the Trinity’s universe and the co-rulers of the entire created world.
And the great longing of God is that we would voluntarily return the favor, making the Trinity – Father, Son, and Holy Spirit – the center of each of our individual universes. That is what the church is all about: a gathering of God’s people who have, because of His great love revealed in Christ, made Him the center of their individual universes, and gather together as a family regularly to keep Him as the central focus of life.
The hallmark of this relationship is one of longing and vulnerability. Healthy mothers and fathers demonstrate this concept so very well. Longing and vulnerability flow even from the life of God Incarnate – In Jesus Very Own Life.
God’s great longing for humankind and His vulnerability in Christ’s conception, birth, life, suffering, death, and resurrection for us all. Man’s great longing for God — for all men long for God even if they won’t admit it — and our constant struggle to open up to Him in vulnerability so that He might conceive in us, give birth in us, bring life to us, be present with us in joys, sufferings, and death, and resurrect us to newness of life.
So, maybe we should take a lesson from good mothers and fathers, yet even more from our Perfect Father and His Perfect Son, Jesus.
First, have you reciprocated with God as He asked? He has made everything, as His own image bearer and the apex of His creative workmanship, for you. Even when you ruined the relationship through your own sin, He sent His Son Jesus to renew the possibility for a real relationship with Himself. Have you given everything back to Him, making Him the center of your life that permeates every thought, motive, choice, action, and reaction?
Second, are you willing to admit and then live out of your own neediness for and vulnerability to God, as Christ did with His mother and His Father? For apart from knowing and living from that place of vulnerability, you cannot be Christlike; and that is your greatest calling in life as a disciple of Jesus.